Want to learn martial arts But dont like to FIGHT?

The whole premise of self-defense is that violence happens when you don't want it and now you have to deal with it. A better analogy would be a seat belt. Saying that you don't want to learn self-defense because you don't want to fight, is like saying you don't want to wear a seat belt because you don't want to get into a car accident. The car accident happens whether you have the seat belt or not. The seat belt reduces your risk of injury if and when it happens. Most people don't WANT to be in a car accident. But they wear seat belts anyway.

Properly taught self-defense is holistic: it teaches people to protect themselves physically, emotionally, ethically, and legally. It teaches force continuum--that is, it teaches how use the right level of force for a given situation. That way, you're using as little violence as necessary to keep yourself safe. This protects you both ethically and legally.

Self-defense also teaches skills like awareness, avoidance, boundary-setting, and defusion to reduce the risk of violence even starting. You will find these skills valuable.

Think what it is that you "don't want". If you say you don't want to fight anybody. That's true of most people, but that doesn't and should not stop them from learning self-defense (just like the seat belt thing). What exactly do you "want" or "not want"?

You don't want to get hurt in a fight? OK, obviously learning self-defense will work in your favor, then. The purpose of the training is to enable you to end a violent situation.

You must also define what you mean by "hurt" someone. Are you absolutely phobic of causing any pain whatsoever, or do you not want to cause INJURY? You can hit someone in the face with a palm strike pretty hard, or drive your forearm into their brachial plexis, or knee them pretty hard in the peroneal nerve (charley horse) and it WILL hurt, but they'll be fine in a couple days. You can even poke them in the eye with fingertips and thumb tips, and though it will hurt, you probably won't injure the eye. The human body is far more resilient than many people realize. The eye doesn't "pop" like it's a soap bubble. These are the things you learn when you learn self-defense.

Anything you learn becomes an OPTION for you. If you take a self-defense class that doesn't provide a good force continuum and only shows you how to gouge the guy's eyes out and knock him out with an elbow, then that doesn't mean that you HAVE to do that if you get attacked. It only means that you KNOW HOW to do it. The more you learn, the more "options you have."

Realistically, if an attack is extremely violent and highly persistent, there is a good chance that you will have to hurt the person to some degree in order to prevent continuation of the attack. If you don't, the only other outcome is serious injury to yourself. If all you need to do is hurt the other person badly enough that he can't chase you as you run away, I'd say that's a good trade-off. Most people would agree.

Lets face it violence DO happen.